‘Understanding infidelity does not mean justifying it’
Esther Perel Couples Therapist
For some it’s a deal breaker and heralds the end of the relationship. For others it’s multi-faceted and there can still be a lot of love and commitment to the relationship despite the intense pain of the betrayal.
Maybe you’re ambivalent about whether your relationship can survive the painful fallout from an affair?
Some couples want to understand why the infidelity happened and this can help them in their process of repairing the rupture between them.
The definition of infidelity varies depending on the agreements of your relationship. Whether it’s provocatively flirting on social media, a secret, intimate emotional connection with another, a ‘fling’ or a full-blown affair, boundaries are crossed, and the consequences can be devastating to the relationship.
If you’re both committed to your relationship, or you want to see if you can save it, despite the infidelity, couples therapy can help.
A safe, non-judgemental space is offered where your experience can be shared. I compassionately support the processing of the ‘fallout’ from infidelity: the pain, betrayal and often guilt and remorse. Then when the couple is ready, to understand why the infidelity happened and what needs to change in the relationship both for the repair and to thrive going forwards.
The process of repair after rupture caused by betrayal and hurt from infidelity is not an easy journey and yet for those couples committed to this process and with support in couples therapy the relationship can become stronger and richer.